Therapy

Life is hard.

We all struggle at some point, and we all could use some extra support during those times. Despite how you feel, it is OK to not be OK.

Admitting you need help to get through the storm is a strong, smart decision. Treatment is not an easy path; therapy takes time, energy and courage. It requires a commitment to self-examination and a willingness to put up with short-term discomfort, but it is one of the best ways to improve your life. It’s also incredibly rewarding and even an action as simple as making an appointment can make you feel better.

But on the other side of the work, on the other side of the self-searching and commitment, a beautiful, fulfilling life awaits you. The right therapist can help you process your feelings, find solutions and change behavior patterns that may be stopping you from achieving self-confidence, reaching your life improvement goals and finding true happiness. This article examines how therapy can improve your life.

How Therapy Can Improve Life

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Therapy Helps You Identify Your Triggers & Avoid Them

Triggers are the external circumstances or events that incite negative feelings and behaviors, such as anxiety, panic or anger. You may be familiar with this term if you or somebody you love is suffering from addiction, as identifying and avoiding triggers that set off drug use is a common tactic in combating addiction.

There are many different types of triggers that set off a wide variety of symptoms. Triggers are part of the human experience and learning about them can help you live a healthier and happier life. Here are some examples:

Emotional triggers. You’ve never felt “enough” for your mother; nothing you do ever seems to please her. Just her presence at your house for Thanksgiving dinner brings about childlike feelings of inadequacy and ineptitude. Whether your partner makes a snide comment or your mom gives you a glare, you snap, the behavioral result of mom’s presence.

Addiction triggers. Longtime smokers will tell you how difficult it is to quit, especially when they do something they’ve always associated with smoking, such as driving or talking on the phone. Other addictions can be triggered by your environment for example, if you’re trying to quit drinking, you probably shouldn’t hang out in bars, because that can heighten the desire to drink (also known as an “exposure trigger”).

Trauma triggers. The brain forms a connection between a stimulus and the feelings associated with a past trauma. For example, say you were abused in your childhood by a man who wore a certain type of cologne. Years later, smelling that cologne could trigger the feelings of panic and helplessness that you experienced during the abuse. This is also called re-experiencing.

Psychiatric/mental health triggers. Eating disorders, self-harming behavior, depression these psychiatric illnesses and many more can be triggered by outside influences. Say someone who is struggling to keep her bulimia under control overhears another person making fun of overweight people that could trigger binge-purge behavior.

How can therapy help?

A licensed therapist is trained to help you identify triggers and develop strategies to avoid them. Since it’s not possible to avoid them entirely, they will also help you learn how to cope with triggers, so you aren’t at their mercy.

What does this look like? Therapy can teach you how to:

  • Identify what may trigger you
  • Accept responsibility for your reaction to the trigger
  • Ask for what you need from others to avoid your triggers
  • Set up healthy boundaries for your emotional and physical health
  • Detach from a situation when necessary and choose a healthier response

Let’s say, for example, your drinking has become a problem. In therapy, your counselor may use resources from The National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism to identify what makes you want to drink and help you develop the necessary coping skills to maintain sobriety. From the workbook:

If drinking changes the way a person acts, thinks, and feels, [you] need to begin by finding out what situations you are most likely to drink in and what you are thinking and feeling in those situations. We call these high-risk situations. What we want to find out is what kinds of things are triggering or maintaining your drinking. Then we can try to develop other ways you can deal with high-risk situations without drinking.

Regardless of what your triggers are and how they affect you, in therapy, you’ll learn ways to stop the trigger from blossoming into progressively worse levels of anxiety and destructive behavior. This takes work, of course, but it is possible to develop strategies that leave you stronger and more confident in your ability to effectively manage triggers when they come up.

Therapy Helps to Identify Core Beliefs Holding You Back

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t — you’re right.” Henry Ford

We’re all operating under a set of beliefs that we learned in childhood. These are called core beliefs the ideas and assumptions we hold about ourselves, other people and the world at large. These beliefs are always bubbling under the surface, affecting us, driving us, influencing how we think, feel and act. They become a set of self-fulfilling prophecies that limit what we believe we can achieve and how happy we think we deserve to be.

Some examples of negative core beliefs that may be holding you back in life include:

  • You can’t trust anyone
  • Women should be thin
  • All men lie
  • Women are backstabbers
  • You should stick by family, no matter what
  • You’ll never amount to much
  • You’re not smart
  • You need a partner to be happy
  • You’re not cut out for that job
  • You’re not good enough

How can therapy help?

Therapy enables you to identify the core beliefs that are keeping you from achieving your goals or simply being happy. A trained counselor pays attention to how you speak, noting when you use absolutes like “that’s impossible,” “everybody always” or “no one should.” They also look to see how you speak of yourself. You likely hold beliefs about yourself that you don’t even realize are limiting you.

What a Therapist does

Your therapist may walk you through a series of questions designed to identify core beliefs. These questions may include:

  • Why do you think you are struggling with X?
  • Why do you think others do or don’t struggle with X as well?
  • Do you think you are smart/pretty/competent? Why or why not?
  • Are people good or bad?
  • Is the world kind and loving or scary and dangerous?

Once you know which core beliefs may be holding you back, you and your therapist can examine where they came from and how to dispel them. Choose a “stretch goal” with your therapist something that will get you closer to your overall goal, but which you can take in baby steps as you challenge the long-held beliefs that are limiting you. As you do this work in therapy and reach smaller milestones, you build the self-confidence that’s necessary to challenge negative core beliefs.

This is a part of a larger therapeutic approaches or intervention known as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), in which you develop coping strategies aimed at changing thoughts, beliefs and attitudes that don’t serve you. A therapist trained in CBT techniques can guide you as you change the negative thinking and behavior that is keeping you from success and happiness.

Group Therapy Provides a Built-in Support System

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As you look into treatment, you will likely find different types of therapy and an option for group therapy. Just as it sounds, in group therapy, several people with similar issues and goals get together under the guidance and direction of a therapist. The goal of group therapy is to change your behavior, as opposed to joining a support group, in which the goal is to better cope with a particular problem.

Group therapy has a number of benefits, including:

  • Trust. There’s a bond among people who have gone through similar experiences and share common obstacles, a level of trust among peers that are unlike any other.
  • Support. You receive emotional and practical support from the group’s members. Other people have been where you are now and have experienced the same symptoms.
  • Hope. Because the group contains members at different stages of therapy, senior members can share stories of hope with newer members.
  • Feedback. The group’s observations and feedback become an integral part of your personal journey. If your therapist observes something, you might be apt to brush it off, thinking she doesn’t know what she’s talking about but if all eight or 10 members of your group observe the same thing, that’s a little harder to brush off.
  • A sense of belonging. You can see that you’re not the only one going through this and you are not alone.
  • You begin to learn how to relate to others in healthy ways. If you’re having trouble understanding why your relationships aren’t successful, you may learn from the group’s members in ways you could never have spotted on your own.

There’s an additional benefit of group therapy: You might make meaningful friendships that can be an invaluable source of love and encouragement even long after treatment ends. Such friendships form a vital support system that helps us in every area of our lives  mentally, physically and spiritually. Having people you can lean on in good times and bad is critical. 

To get the most out of group therapy:

  • Be honest and forthcoming. Make an effort to be an active participant in the group. Don’t monopolize the discussion every time, but let people in.
  • Learn how to give and receive feedback.  This is one of the biggest benefits of the group dynamic. Pay attention to what your peers have to say. They can often see attitudes and behaviors in you well before you can recognize them in yourself. Give thoughtful feedback as well.
  • Don’t assume what others are thinking or feeling. When in doubt, ask.
  • Follow the rules set forth by the counselor. There’s not much to add to that.

A word about addiction

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Participating in both group therapy and a support group has proven especially beneficial for those who think they may have a drug or alcohol problem. While there are a number of factors that go into why someone has an addiction, decades of research and experience shows that the group dynamic is especially helpful here.

If you or someone you love is suffering from addiction, you can find group therapy/intensive outpatient treatment by visiting:

Millions of people worldwide have found lasting recovery via the following 12-step groups, faith-based groups and other community-based support groups. Participation in these groups is free. You may wish to look into:

Therapy Helps You Develop & Maintain Good Habits

When we’re facing problems such as extreme stress, depression, anxiety, grief or a particularly traumatic breakup, it’s easy to let up on the things we need to do to take care of ourselves and, it’s not always easy to recognize that this is what we’re doing. In addition, for whatever reason, some of us never developed the habits we need to maintain good emotional and physical health in the first place. Therapy can rectify that by helping you develop healthy habits to improve your life.

A competent therapist can help you identify areas of self-care that need improvement. A professionally trained and objective third party is vital to this process. The goals of self-care are to:

  • Establish habits that promote good physical and emotional health
  • Reduce stress and add more balance to your life
  • Increase your joy and achieve your goals

So what does self-care look like? It will be a little different for everyone, but here’s a general idea:

  • If you’re taking meds, take them as prescribed
  • Attend your treatment sessions; don’t skip because your symptoms are getting better
  • Get out and about don’t isolate
  • Stick to a regular sleeping schedule
  • Exercise, eat right and practice good hygiene
  • Attend support groups regularly
  • Experiment with what brings you joy for example, listen to new types of music, meditate, attend a drum circle, plant a garden
  • Keep a journal
  • Make a vision board
  • Get your nails done or treat yourself to a massage

Self-care is especially important for those suffering from depression, anxiety disorders, substance abuse disorders and PTSD, as well as those who are coming to terms with violence or abuse. That’s because a lack of energy and motivation is common in those illnesses and situations, as is a sense of self-loathing. These can prevent sufferers from taking proper care of themselves.

Self-care not only improves our lives, but it improves the lives of those close to us. In their book, Work and Family – Allies or Enemies?: What Happens When Business Professionals Confront Life Choices, authors Stewart D. Friedman and Jeffrey H. Greenhaus discovered a positive correlation between the time that working mothers spent practicing self-care and the physical and mental health of their children.

Once you and your therapist identify which healthy habits you’re lacking, set up a plan to incorporate them in your life. A therapist serves as an excellent accountability partner in this regard.

Explore Online Therapy With ThriveTalk

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Everybody needs help sometimes. Get help if you experience:

  • Symptoms of depression
  • A desire to change something about your life
  • Anxiety that interferes with your ability to carry out normal activities
  • Self-destructive, abusive or violent behavior
  • Behavior associated with eating disorders
  • Grandiose ideas, periods of mania or hyperactivity
  • A history of sexual abuse
  • Compulsive behaviors such as substance abuse or excessive shopping, gambling or sexual activity
  • Inability to move through grief

It’s important to note that therapy isn’t limited to people experiencing the above symptoms. Therapy can help in a number of “life” situations, too, such as when you want to:

  • Resolve relationship problems
  • Stop picking abusive or emotionally unavailable partners
  • Grow in your career and stop underachieving
  • Develop more self-esteem and self-confidence
  • Overcome shyness and isolation
  • Transition from one stage of life to another
  • Find someone to talk to about life’s challenges
  • Ensure a better quality of life

ThriveTalk provides online therapy or online counseling services for those who prefer teletherapy and are ready and willing to explore their issues with a licensed therapist. ThriveTalk provides therapy when and where you want it.

Are you ready to learn what’s stopping you from becoming truly self-confident and living the life of your dreams? Schedule an online therapy session with a qualified counselor who can help you identify and correct what’s holding you back from success and happiness. Contact us to set up an appointment for online counseling therapy with ThriveTalk. Get started today.

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Therapy is also called psychotherapy, talk therapy or counseling. It is an effective treatment option for a wide variety of emotional and mental health issues. There are many different types of therapies, some of which are aimed at a particular condition; and some which are used for a variety of conditions. Therapy can take place individually, as partners, as a family, or in a group. Mental health professionals who guide therapy sessions are usually psychologists, psychiatrists, licensed counselors or social workers. Therapy can be a treatment option on its own, or it can be administered together with other types of treatment, such as medication.

What is Therapy?

Therapy sessions are typically held once a week and last for about 50-minutes. During the session, you will be encouraged to express your thoughts, feelings and anxieties or any concerns that you may have about your mental health. Therapy is based on establishing an honest, open and trusting relationship between the therapist and client.

The therapist’s job is primarily to listen and to gently guide people into looking at situations differently or adopting new skills to help them to resolve their concerns. Your psychologist or psychiatrist will never tell you what to do. Instead they will help you to understand your emotions and to discover behavioral options, that you may not have considered, for improving your mental health. Together with the therapist, you will define the problems you wish to solve and set goals to help you achieve emotional well-being. Usually, therapy sessions will continue for less than a year, but they can sometimes go on for longer.

Benefits of Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy has the benefit of being totally natural and without side effects. While it can take some time for results to be noted, therapy has the advantage that the benefits tend to be long-lasting.

  • Therapy can provide support during a difficult period. It can help you to set realistic goals in your life and it can show you how to make positive changes in the way you deal with things.
  • Therapy can offer guidance in a specific relationship, life or work issue. And it is also effective for tackling long-standing mental health conditions.
  • Therapy can help you to increase your self-confidence and enables you to face challenges more easily. It can help you to heal past pains and to identify and change behaviors which are getting in the way of your happiness and well-being.
  • Setting goals can also help along with learning new ways to solve problems. It can show you how to deal better with strong emotions and provide you with ways in which you can improve your relationships.
  • Therapy can also help you to learn more about your condition or your symptoms, so that you can cope better.

Types of Therapy

There are many different types of therapeutic approaches. The most common ones are listed below.

Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

This therapy is known to work well for many mental health conditions especially anxiety, depression and bipolar disorder. It can work in two ways. First off, it helps the person to develop positive thoughts and beliefs about their life and to dispel negative misconceptions. Additionally, it helps them to learn how to take actions that are healthier and better for them in the end.

Humanistic Therapy

This therapy focuses on each person’s strengths and aims at boosting their self-image. It considers each person to be a totally unique individual, capable of understanding and adapting their feelings to achieve fullness in life. The therapist helps the person to gain better insight into their inner conflicts and to become self-actualized.

Family Therapy

This type of therapy encourages better communication between family members. It shows them how to deal with conflicts and how to seek solutions to problems. It is often used for people with eating disorders or bipolar disorder.

Psychodynamic therapy

This therapy looks for repressed memories or unresolved conflicts which could be contributing to your current mental health problems. It helps people to discover unconscious emotions and to come to terms with them.

Group Therapy

Group therapy is still led by a therapist but involves a group of people usually with shared or common mental health conditions or situations. Sharing experiences with others can be very helpful in finding solutions.

What is Therapy

Online Therapy

Many people are now opting for this option as they can choose from many different therapists, it reduces traveling, they have various appointment options, it can be less expensive and it offers a very similar success rate as face to face counseling. Also, it ensures your total privacy. Many people find it easier to talk with someone while sitting in the familiar surroundings of their own home. Be sure to seek an online therapist from an approved site such as Thrivetalk.

Making the Decision to Seek Therapy

Many people find making the decision to seek therapy the hardest part. Some may fear the stigma that is still unfortunately attached to mental illness and psychological health problems. Others may feel embarrassed about the prospect of discussing their innermost thoughts with a stranger. Most, however, find that once they have made the initial contact; they feel fine about therapy and that their fears were unfounded. Therapists are professionals who respect your privacy and they are skilled at making you feel comfortable so that you can open up and find the solutions to your problems.

Tips for Finding the Best Therapist for You

Always make sure to verify a therapist’s professional qualifications and remember to ask if they are licensed to work in the state you live in. If possible, find their website to read about their skills and areas of specialty. You could also check out the reviews left by other patients. It is important that you decide beforehand if you would feel more comfortable with a man or a woman, someone older or younger, with a formal or a more friendly style, or if you would prefer someone from your own race or culture.

It is really important to find a therapist who you feel at ease with and who you feel empathizes with you. For effective therapy, you need to trust your therapist. Finding the right therapist can sometimes be a trial and error process. If you do not feel comfortable with a therapist, the best idea would be to look for another one.

Questions to Ask a Potential Therapist

Do you have any experience in treating people with conditions similar to mine?

How often will therapy take place?

Can I get in touch with you between sessions if I need to?

How long does each session last?

After how many sessions will I start to see an improvement?

Getting the Most Out of Therapy

Therapy requires commitment. Sometimes, making changes or letting go of past emotions or behaviors can be hard, so it is important to remain motivated and committed. For this reason, it is vital to have confidence in your therapist and a strong desire to feel better. You should also be flexible and willing to try new things. It usually takes several sessions before you feel the benefits of therapy. In fact, some people may feel worse at the start of their therapy journey as they are confronted with feelings and emotions that they have been avoiding for years. However, if you persist you are very likely to get huge benefits out of therapy.

How Can I Find a Good Therapist Near Me?

There are different ways in which you can find a therapist near you. You can ask your doctor to recommend a good therapist or you can find a qualified online therapist who can help you through Thrivetalk. Talking with a therapist online can be just as effective as talking to them face to face and it has many other advantages as mentioned above.

Recently therapy has become much more accepted. It used to be limited to people who could afford it and many people were proud to be able to afford a therapist. Nowadays, therapy has become much more accessible and available to many more people. If you feel that therapy could help you, don’t wait any longer to seek help and begin to feel better!

Resources

  1. https://www.goodtherapy.org/what-is-therapy.html
  2. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/therapy
  3. https://psychcentral.com/psychotherapy/
  4. http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/therapy

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